Wednesday, September 15, 2010

Actually, it's not the woman's fault.

From "Ines Sainz: The Woman Who Cried Wolf Whistle":
This past weekend, the woman billed by her employer  as Mexico’s “Hottest Reporter” entered the locker room of the New York Jets football team to conduct an interview. She was wearing the totally demure outfit pictured above. Shockingly, the locker room full of testosterone-laden men noticed that she’s more than a bit attractive and catcalls, whistling and leering ensued. . . .
Was it boorish and crass behavior on the part of the New York Jets? Sure. But, who ever claimed that professional football players are the epitome of chivalry? You think one would know that, having worked in the sporty field for years. Secondly, it’s not unexpected at all. On this, the science is settled: men like – and like to look at – hot chicks. . . .
Teachable Moment: If you truly don’t want to be ogled and whistled at, don’t, you know, go into a male locker room sporting a camel toe. 
From "Seven Conditions For Women's Dress in Islam":
1. Clothing must cover the entire body, only the hands and face may remain visible (According to some Fiqh Schools).
2. The material must not be so thin that one can see through it.
3. The clothing must hang loose so that the shape / form of the body is not apparent.
4. The female clothing must not resemble the man's clothing.
5. The design of the clothing must not resemble the clothing of the non believing women.
6. The design must not consist of bold designs which attract attention.
7. Clothing should not be worn for the sole purpose of gaining reputation or increasing one's status in society.
The reason for this strictness is so that the woman is protected from the lustful gaze of men. She should not attract attention to herself in any way. It is permissible for a man to catch the eye of a woman, however it is haram (unlawful) for a man to look twice as this encourages lustful thoughts. 
From "Rape Victims 'Asking For It'" (21 November 2005)
34% believe women who flirt can be blamed if they are raped and 26% say if a woman is in sexy clothing she is partly to blame
Women who flirt, get drunk or wear sexy clothes are asking to be raped, according to a shocking new survey.
More than a third of people - mainly males - believe girls trying to chat up men are partially or totally responsible for being attacked.
A quarter reckon a woman wearing a provocative outfit is at least partly to blame - especially if she has been drinking.
One in 12 thinks she is a natural target if she has had a number of sexual partners.
And a third believe she is responsible to some degree if she has clearly failed to say No.
The disturbing attitudes towards rape and rape victims were uncovered by Amnesty International in a national survey to promote its Stop Violence Against Women campaign.
The poll of 1,000 adults found 30 per cent considered a woman partially or totally responsible for being raped if she was drunk.
Why is it so difficult for some of us to ask men to take responsibility for their actions?

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